ARE YOU READY?

How could I say that? Not ready? But he's 29! She's never going to get dates if she's over 25!

I meant it. It's better to take a year off from dating and really work on being who you are than to keep dating without being your own person. It is a futile attempt to try to find the one for you when you don't know you. You can come up with all the lists of characteristics you want in a wife or a husband, but first you need to have a list about yourself.

Now some practical ideas. (Don't laugh!)

Surfing
Dance
Rollerblading
Arts & crafts
Painting
Drawing
Photography
Jewlery making
Basketball
Martial Arts
Model cars
Baseball
Swimming
Travel
Cooking & Baking
Model train sets
Collecting miniatures


Now granted one of these activities might just be someone's daily workout, and one might be your day job. The point is to have fun and be yourself. Go on dates by yourself, see the world even if it's just looking out onto the view of the East River. When you know you can have fun by yourself, and have made a new friend - yourself . . . then you're ready. Not just ready to date, but ready to get married.